Neurodivergent parent in business 9/8
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[00:00:00] Hey friends. Welcome back to the Neuro Tribe. I'm so grateful to have all of you here.
Did you guys know that I have a private Facebook group that is called The Neuro Tribe. I'd love for you to look it up. Come and join and pop in and say hello. Are you a neurodivergent parent in business? That's a lot just in and of itself. Now let's add an injury. So let's say you got hurt, you need to go to the hospital. You at the hospital, and they say, okay, tell me what's going on. And you can tell them what happened, but then they start asking you what you feel in your body.
Only you think in pictures. You think visually. So then you're going inside your body and trying to come up with how to say the words of [00:01:00] what you are feeling. And because that's hard to do, they don't take you seriously. Until they get some sort of imaging or ultrasound or X-ray or MRI or something like that, and then they send you to whatever therapy that you need, and what do they all say?
What are you feeling? Tell me what you're feeling in your body. And you really, seriously have to think about that because. You think in these vivid images and when you are thinking inside your body and you don't have vast knowledge of all of the different body parts, all of the different parts of the organs and parts of the.
Ligaments and whatever it is, you are trying to explain what you feel and that's really hard. And so you can say, [00:02:00] hang on, give me a minute. I'm trying to explain, or I'm trying to come up with the words to be able to describe it to you. And then they just start throwing out a bunch of words and. Maybe it's helpful sometimes, but other times you're like, hang on, I'm trying really hard.
I need to process what I'm feeling so I can explain it to you. Let's say that the injury has to do with something and you have to go to, say, a PT, and you have to do movement, and they're having you do these movements and they're asking you how you feel as you're doing the movements. So now you're concentrating on moving and you're concentrating on how you feel and you're concentrating on how Can you explain how you feel?
So you say some things like. While I'm feeling something here and I'm not sure if it's good or bad, while I'm feeling something here. I [00:03:00] don't know how to put it in words. And so they just keep going on with whatever they're doing, whatever exercises they're doing, and the next thing you know, you are re-injured or you are.
Hurting worse, leaving than coming in the door. And you get this overall feeling that you are not being taken seriously because it is hard for you to communicate what is going on inside your body. Infuriating, right? Yes. That can be a hard one. And so learning to come up with words like I am a visual thinker.
I am trying to figure out how to put the picture that I have in my body out of my mouth. Or you could maybe ask for suggestions. Can you give me like a multiple choice of what are common [00:04:00] things so I can tell you what it sounds like I'm feeling?
And other things that can really help you with not feeling well and needing to communicate with doctors or therapists or whoever you're working to communicate with is saying, Hey. It is really hard for me to explain what I'm feeling in my body. I need you to know that I need you to take me seriously.
That can be helpful just to express, hey, I'm really, I'm intentional. I'm telling you I am feeling something right now. It doesn't feel good and I need help.
Asking someone to come with you to advocate for you can be very powerful, very helpful. Asking to record the doctor's appointment or record [00:05:00] the session can be helpful to you, whatever you need to do so you can take the information and process it and get back to them.
Or even if it's not like you're bleeding out or you've lost. Your function of your limbs, right? If you can take the time before going to the doctor or the hospital to process what you're thinking, feeling what's been going on, and write it all down before you get there, that can also be very helpful for you.
Now the matter is you are neurodivergent. You're working really hard mentally and emotionally to deal with whatever you're dealing with. The doctors, the hospitals, the therapists, the whatevers, and that is draining. And then you are running a business or you're working on a project or [00:06:00] whatever it is that you work on, and you also have your neurodivergent kids at home.
Now this can be an exhausting trying time that could lead to overloads sensory overload. It could lead to having extra sensitive, sensory needs at the time. It could lead to maybe needing more sleep than usual, or going to bed earlier than usual. It can lead to not wanting or can do certain things that you normally do, like ride, share, ride pickup, or maybe doing.
Some dinner or ordering groceries, no matter what it is, this is the time where you really step back and you take the pressure off of yourself of all of the things that you need to be doing or you should be doing, and allow yourself extra rest and [00:07:00] allow yourself to heal from whatever your. Managing at the moment, and it's time to order those groceries for delivery.
It's time to pay someone to come and clean your house or ask your best friend to come over and just say, Hey, I can't clean my house right now. Are you willing to do it with me? Or can you help me out? Or. Ask maybe some local moms or a buy nothing group.
Explain that you're injured and you, it would really help if you had some groceries delivered or some meals that are pre-made. If you have older kids and they are in a place where neurologically and with the right tools that they can cook, that's when you can help teach them how to cook. And I actually say this because after my [00:08:00] husband passed away, I was bedridden for a few months with mono.
And I literally could not get out of bed. And my kids were younger than they are now, I actually had them bring the groceries upstairs to my bed I would teach them knife skills right there in my bed. I would give them one direction at a time to go down. Now you put the carrots in the broth and you let them cook for a while,
so I would give them one direction at a time because I learned that if I gave any more than one, the directions would get lost in translation. So there could be ways that you can problem solve with your kids, even if they're younger, on how to teach them how to cook. And you might find that they actually like it, and it's actually a bonding moment between you.
It could be [00:09:00] that you have older kids that already know how to cook, but they usually don't, and that's when you pull in their help to be able to get some meals made. My point is when you are hurt or injured or really ill, this is the time. Us neurodivergent, overachievers. I'm telling you, we really try hard to put the world on our shoulders and do all of the things, and this is the time where I'm telling you, take that off of your shoulder and allow yourself to heal and ask for help, even if it's really hard for you to do.
I love you all. Take care. Bye-bye.
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