Being an ND parent and letting go of other judgements
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Hey friends, welcome back to the NeuroTribe. Today we are going to talk about being an ND parent, parenting ND kids, and what that experience is like and the messages that we get as parents. One thing that is notable is that we are given a set of rules of what a good parent looks like, right? But none of those set of rules is what a good parent looks like as an ND person or a parent that is parenting ND kids.
A lot of the messaging that we can receive is that we are doing things wrong or [00:02:00] we are not following The good parent rules. And so really taking some time for us as ND individuals and also parenting ND kids, we really need to deconstruct all of the ideas that we are getting, all of the messages that we're getting from society of what being a good parent looks like and deciding for ourselves, what being a good parent.
For our situation is, and it can look so many different. These messages come from so many different directions. It could be that you have, say, a kid with PDA, and you have someone that consistently says to you. Your kids are getting your energy. They're feeling your energy. So if they're acting up, if their behavior is acting up, it's because of [00:03:00] the energy they're getting from you.
Okay. Friends, listen. Behaviors with the ND community do not mean that it is you as a parent that's screwing up and you're screwing your kids up. This is just harmful and it's not a good message to give parents who are already stressed out and trying very hard to do their best to serve their kids and they're being told that their energy is messing up their kids.
Shame does not work. Love you. And no, thank you. Another thing that we can get being nd and having nd kids is all of the scheduling, right? There are so many therapies. We need therapy for ourselves. Our kids need therapy, whether it's talk therapy or equine therapy. It could be that you are deciding to homeschool [00:04:00] or unschool. It could be that you have kids that are in public school and public school is not quite working out but you need to figure something else out whether you're It is some sort of a hybrid situation or homeschooling altogether, but online schooling, right?
There are so many options that we as ND parents get to and need to assess. Depending are on our kids needs and if you have multiple and the kids like I do, it could be that each and every kid needs something different and you're needing to adjust and adapt and cater to each one.~ It could also be that being a 2E person and having that high EQ, it translates also to you not wanting your kids to have the same experience that you did as a kid, right? ~So there can be this balance of, What is too much? And what is not enough? And it could be that there are other people, even in the ND community that maybe [00:05:00] have said some things that are judgmental, right?
It could be that you're worried that you're not giving your kids enough structure or enough discipline, or you're unschooling is it? Very unschooling, right? And you have gotten comments about how, what if your kids grow up, spoiled or what if they don't learn anything and you've gotten kind of some of those judgments, even within this homeschooling community that you're not doing enough.
As an ND person, as a 2E person, as a homeschooling person. And so really challenging these kinds of questions or these kinds of judgments. It could be that you have family members or friends that they see your approach to your kids where you're not reactive to their [00:06:00] behaviors. And that you are seeing and sensing and understanding that these types of behaviors are communication.
And so really taking some time to understand where your kids are coming from and adapt to their needs in any given situation. And you might get comments from family members of they're going to end up being spoiled or why don't, why are you ignoring that behavior? There can be so many outside influences on us being parents as of ND kids, right?
~And being to eat ourselves that can affect the way that we are feeling. Cause then we're taking on that. So ~we can get judgments from people that are Outside of the N. D. community or inside the N. D. community, we can get judgments from family members, we can get judgments from people at school, at summer camp, or at an after school program, and [00:07:00] having that time for us to be able to really be real with ourselves and honor our community.
Really spending that time and being okay with our choices as an ND parent and as A parent of ND kids and really finding a tribe to be able to support each other and lift each other up and support each other. Right? So if you are raising your hand and you're like, yes, I absolutely want to be around other people who get me, who get my kids, who get my family dynamic, who understand that I'm running a business.
I'm N. D. I'm raising N. D. kids. Please do feel free to click the link below and join our Neurotribe today. I love you all. Take care. Bye bye.
