Break free from judgments and opinions to build deeper connections

December 04, 2024

Let's explore how opinions are like onions, requiring careful challenging assumptions and evaluating arguments to understand their true nature. 🧅 By developing our emotional intelligence and communication skills, we can better navigate through layers of opinions to reach deeper understanding. Using philosophy as our guide, we can learn to distinguish between facts and personal beliefs, creating more meaningful discussions. 💫

Judgements and opinions can play a major role in our lives and impact our relationships, both personally and professionally.

As a neurodivergent parent or individual, opinions can often hold us back from forming deeper, more meaningful connections with others.

Learn how opinions and judgements, much like onions, have layers that can cloud your perspective and create unnecessary judgment. This episode will challenge you to peel back those layers and embrace open-mindedness and acceptance, leading to healthier relationships with your kids, your partner, and even strangers.

We’ll explore the importance of self-awareness, empathy, and how shifting from judgment to curiosity can transform your relationships and personal growth.

Tune in to understand:
- How opinions affect your interactions and connections with others.
- The power of letting go of judgments and embracing open-mindedness.
- How to shift your thinking from skepticism to curiosity, and how it leads to emotional growth.
- The importance of approaching others with kindness and understanding rather than judgment.
- How neurodivergent families can navigate challenging conversations with empathy.

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Key Takeaways:

Understanding Opinions: How opinions are often mistaken for facts and how they affect our ability to connect.
Peeling Back the Layers: The importance of digging deeper into opinions to discover the root cause of our judgments.
Shifting Mindsets: How curiosity and open-mindedness can lead to stronger, more authentic relationships.
Self-Reflection: Why self-awareness and emotional regulation are key in letting go of judgment.
The Power of Empathy: How embracing empathy helps neurodivergent families connect better and thrive.

Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction: Understanding the Power of Opinions
01:30 - What Are Opinions and How They Affect Our Interactions
03:15 - Peeling Back the Layers: Moving from Judgment to Curiosity
05:00 - The Impact of Opinions on Relationships
07:15 - How Letting Go of Judgments Creates Deeper Connections
09:30 - The Role of Empathy and Kindness in Overcoming Opinions
12:00 - Final Thoughts: Embracing Open-Mindedness and Personal Growth

Episode Transcript

[00:00:00] Welcome to the Neurotribe, the podcast where authenticity meets empowerment. Your host, Teresa, is a certified business executive and life coach navigating the intricate tapestry of neurodiversity. She's someone blessed with ADHD and dyslexia and gifted a widow and a mother to four incredible neurodiverse children.

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Join us on this unfiltered journey where no topic is too challenging, [00:01:00] no triumph too small. Let's unravel the layers of our community's experiences, embracing the struggles, celebrating the gifts, and finding empowerment and authenticity in every episode. And let's start right now.

This week we're going to be talking about opinions

and because I like to make things fun, Opinions, when you look at the word, kind of looks like onions.

And opinions very much are kind of like an onion and has layers to it. You got to kind of peel the layers to get to the root of it or get to the bottom of it, right? So, with opinions, they often will be spoken as a fact. People will say an opinion. And their opinion sounds solid, like it just is, it's a fact,

but if you really get to kind of pick at the different [00:02:00] layers, in the center is a judgment of some kind. So what an opinion sounds like is, well, she should've, well, he should've, notice the word well, and should, should've. Those are all major flags that there is an opinion going on. Another one that is Really blatant is well

"he's supposed to" "She's supposed to" right? So this is this opinion this judgment that someone is supposed to Do, not do, think, act in this way, right? Another one that you can see is an opinion is "I can't believe" I will have sessions with clients and these sessions will be talking [00:03:00] about wanting to have more of a community, wanting to have friends, wanting to be able to approach people.

And before it's even happens, there will be opinions thrown out about people in general. Well, I don't want friends to be fake. I don't want to have superficial people. I don't want to have the type of friends that they talk to you for maybe the first few times and then they just absolutely ghost you.

And I say this because. When you're approaching someone, do you really want to be approaching someone with a judgment, before you've even spoken to them? Do you want to be approaching someone with the thought, I don't want this person to be fake? Or, I don't like talking to fake [00:04:00] people.

Because then, your brain has a direction to go, right? Rather than being open to asking the person about themselves, getting to know them, it's very geared towards their fake, they're superficial. They're supposed to. They should do this, right? Another one. is grouping people together, whether it's grouping all males together or grouping all females together or grouping, ethnicities together.

Grouping neurodivergent individuals together or neurodiverse groups together and grouping neurotypicals together. If you're grouping whole bodies of people together. There could be some opinions that are thrown out and what I want to ask you, challenge you is when you throw an opinion out, how does it make [00:05:00] you feel and do you want to feel that way?

do you want to feel skeptical? Which if you peel the layer of skeptical back, normally it's because there's some judgment, right? Again, just like an onion. I know I'm being so witty. Onion opinion, anyway, when you peel the layers back in the middle is judgment and everybody has some aspect of judgment in them. But I challenge you, if your opinions are holding you back in life or you're not able to really feel connected to someone. I wonder how many opinions you have of them. I wonder how many judgments you have of them or of a partner [00:06:00] or a sister or a brother or people you've never talked to before, but you work with them, right?

Or maybe they are people that are at the gym and you 100 percent are thinking all kinds of opinions about them and judging them, right? Again, we have opinions about people and those opinions create the way that we feel with regards to whoever it is. And when we have these feelings, these judgments about people, what are our actions?

Are we approaching people with kindness? Are we approaching people with openness? Are we trying to see their point of view on things? Are we open at all to see if our [00:07:00] opinions, our judgments, are actually not sustainable? I think that it's fascinating because when we open up and we let go of some of our opinions and let go of some of our judgments, we can actually form some pretty amazing connections.

You might make a new friend. You might let go of some resentment or bitterness that you have towards your partner, or your sister, or your aunt. Because really, an opinion, it's not harming the other person, necessarily. It's more harming you and the way you feel and the way you conduct yourself. So I want to ask you, how do you want to show up? Do you want to show up with opinions and judgments? Just curious. Not my place to say yes or no. It's [00:08:00] yours. I love you all. Have a good day. Take care.

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