I'm Stuck, How do I get out of it?
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Hey friends. Welcome back for this. Beautiful spring day. One of the things that is interesting is I get a lot of requests for I'm stuck. I am stuck in this place. I'm stuck with making appointments or I'm stuck with this project or I'm doing great in my business. I just don't feel like doing it right now, or I don't feel like getting past this point and it can be so many reasons of why this is coming up.
It could be imposter syndrome. It could be that you've gotten bored. It could be analysis paralysis. No matter whatever the [00:02:00] reason is for you being stuck in the moment. I want to help you think about different ways to get past that point. Now I, of course always dive into what is going on for you. How are you feeling physically?
What is going on with you mentally? What is going on with you emotionally, what's going on in life right now. And definitely diving into what your thought process is it. Happening at the time, right? When you were feeling stuck, what are you thinking about?
More importantly, how can we start to choose our thoughts? That is going to help us get unstuck. What feelings do we need to have to move forward in a positive way? Now for me.
I have gotten to that place where I [00:03:00] am stuck. It's like I sit at my desk, I know I need to get work done. And yet my mind is racing going 10 million miles an hour. And I've got 20 different thoughts and I'm not sure which one to chase. I've also sat down at my desk and thought, oh my gosh, who am I even to be the type of person that can put. Stuff out there where I know what I'm talking about and I know what I'm doing right. Which is ridiculous.
Like all of the things are ridiculous, but it happens to all of us, whether it's me or you, or your neighbor, or your best friend, or your husband, or your wife or your whoever. It happens to us. So what happens when we just freeze and we're stuck and we feel like we can't get past the, that point. Now sometimes it's just a matter of [00:04:00] getting everything out of your head of all of the things that you're thinking about and all of the feelings that you have.
And. Maybe you're working, but you're thinking about your home or your family or your kids. Maybe you're at home and you're in the thick of it with the kids and you can't seem to get to a quiet place. To make some phone calls,
maybe it is that you're in a relationship that's not healthy for you.
And you are trying so hard to get out of that relationship, but you just feel stuck. Whatever it is that makes you feel stuck. Let's talk about it. So getting all of your thoughts and feelings out of your head onto a piece of paper or talk to an AI and have the AI organize the thoughts and translate it for you. Right on your note pad or a journal, sometimes phones have journals.
Sometimes you can put it in your computer. [00:05:00] That is one tool that you have ready at your disposal at any time. And sometimes it's just getting those thoughts out helps you get unstuck.
I also really liked to talk about feelings now. The first or the second and third episode was the bore feelings and the bite sized pieces feelings. I suggest you go back to those two episodes and listen to them again. The reason why is because a lot of time when we are stuck, it's because of the way we feel.
We either don't want to feel the way that we were our feeling or we're afraid to feel the feeling. And that is why we are stuck. So for me personally, I genuinely, when it comes to business, I really like to have these three feelings at the [00:06:00] ready. I call them the three DS and I speak to my clients about the three DS.
Often it is drive. Dedication and devotion. When I think about what I'm doing and why I'm doing it and what drives me to do it, I am more likely to move forward. If I am thinking about the dedication that I have doing what I'm doing, why I'm doing it, the purpose in getting it across and the dedication. I am more likely to do it.
The devotion why I'm devoted to doing this. It all helps me move forward in a positive forward motion. So I challenge you. If you are stuck the next time. Try and come up with [00:07:00] three different feelings that you need to have to help you get past it. Is it. Motivation. Is it self. Love is it dedication? Is it commitment,
is it a promise that you gave to yourself and what kind of thoughts do you need? To help with those feelings. So for instance, if I am driven to do something. I have my future that I'm thinking about. I have the next six months, 12 months, five years, 10 years that I have planned out and I am driven to get to those points.
If I am dedicated for something it's usually because I'm dedicated to the cause that I am. Trying to help. Like for me, I am dedicated to help , the neuro-diverse community. [00:08:00] It is I live in breathe, the neuro-diverse community. I researched the neuro-diverse community.
I served the neuro diverse community every day. I am dedicated to make changes for this community for the better. Devotion. I am absolutely devoted to making positive change. I'm devoted to my children. I am willing. To do what it takes to take care of my children, to get them to all of their therapies. To get them their needs for their IEP is to get them to a place where they have a brighter future.
They have a good future, right? So these are things that I think about when I'm thinking of the feelings that I want to pull forth. So if you find that you are stuck and you really want to move forward first and foremost, ask yourself, what are you feeling right now? And what do you [00:09:00] need to feel to move forward? Then when you know what you need to feel, start thinking about thoughts that help you feel that feeling. Write them down.
If you need to speak them out loud, if you need to. Think about them over and over, if you need to, and that can help you get into positive forward motion. I love you all take care. Bye-bye.
