📍 📍 Hey friends. Welcome back. Aye. I'm absolutely loving doing this YouTube and podcast. I. am actually internally, I'm very grateful to be able to put my work out there. And so glad that. I have come to this place and I really genuinely feel like all of these lights bulbs are going off. And as I write more work, I get so excited to produce and write more. So that's been so fun for me. I also want to thank all of you. Who are joining outside of the country.
And at this time, I can't even think all of the different countries. Cause you're, you're all showing up. You're all joining. And so I'm very grateful that our neuro tribe around the world is growing so exponential. I'm going to say that word again, exponentially. Hopefully that's a full word anyway. So the last couple of weeks we have been talking about the bots.
So if you have not. Been able to watch or listen to the last few weeks and the bots. I want you to go back. And listen to the bots. One is called blue hair. That is about belief systems. That we didn't realize were there that are kind of making decisions in our lives. The other one is opinions and the opinions are for lack of better words, judgements and. They can be very tricky as if they're a fact. The other one is T that's thoughts.
And then the last are stories. Okay. So I, this part almost went into the bots. Because it is so prominent, both with my own discovery and self discovery and also with my clients. It's, it's very. Very prevalent in my business and in my helping people. It's almost like spaghetti. And spaghetti sauce.
You have this spaghetti. You have to have the spaghetti sauce. And what this is, is the sticky part of unhelpful questions. Okay. So as I'm working with clients, what I will notice is a lot of unhelpful questions.
And with these unhelpful questions. They might sound something like.
Why can't I be a normal.
What's wrong with me.
Who do you think you are? Why can't I just.
Oh my gosh. Am I a good mom? Or am I a good parent? Am I doing the right thing.
What am I missing?
Okay. What did I do?
What should I do? I don't know what to do. What should I do?
No. These may seem.
Just like questions for you. But what I want to ask you. Is when you are asking yourself these questions. What comes up for you? There's a lot of mind drama happen. A lot of mind, chatter, your brain starts spinning and spinning and ruminating and spinning. Do you get into maybe some feelings that don't feel great.
When you were asking yourself these questions, which I guarantee you, you are asking these questions or other ones.
And I feel free to write in some of the ones that you have, right. I put in the comments or find me on Facebook, the neuro-diverse life coach. Find me on Instagram, the neuro-diverse life coach. Tell me, what are your questions that are you, or that you are asking yourself?
And how do they make you feel?
So. The sticky part that I was telling you about these questions. What I really realized. And in my work, I talked to my clients and I say to them, I will always boil things down for you.
But if you ask the questions, like, for instance, why can't I just be normal? That actually is a question. That's above the surface of that unhelpful question is above the surface of a B a bot. Belief system and that belief system, is that something about you is not normal.
That is you. So that showing you your work that you get to do. To learn to accept yourself for who you are. Right. What about. Who do you think that you are.
That sounds like. N O.
Who do you think that you are? That's super judgemental. That's an opinion, right? That also follows by, you know, you should do this, you should do that. You know, What about why can't I just.
Fill in the blank. Why can't I just.
Fill in the blank. That sounds like a T. Because if you. Can't just. That's a thought. That you can. Quickly turn around.
Right.
What about what did I do?
Or what am I missing? Especially, what am I missing? There's probably a lot of storyline going on in your mind. There's a lot of story that you're telling yourself about whatever is going on.
And what your mind does is it makes up a lot of stories to fill in the blanks.
I'm laughing. It's so not funny, but I'm laughing because we all do it. First of all. I just want to let you know if you have noticed any one of the bots or my spaghetti. And sweaty sauce, unhelpful questions. Your normal. It's okay. All of us do it.
Right. Whether you're neuro divergent or neuro-typical. Of course, I only coached neurodivergent individuals or people that think that they might be.
But. Breaking this down is so helpful. Figuring out what unhelpful questions am I asking myself?
What kind of mind drama comes up when I ask these unhelpful questions. To myself.
And then when you figure that out, when you start to unfurl your mind drama, You can start to figure out your bots.
What, what is the root of that mind drama? There might be a bot in there.
And then once you figure that out,
I think the thing that is so interesting with these unhelpful questions. Is, it will put you into an inaction. Like analysis paralysis. Or paralysis in general. Or you're just going to give up and go watch Netflix or. Go eat some. Chips or something, you know, maybe you end up doom scrolling on social media. And you're going to go to inaction. And not do the thing. Or you're going to go to reaction.
I'm going to tell you friends. Most of the time, if you are reacting, I'm not most of the time. All of the time when you are reacting to things, you are not acting with intention. And you're not going to like your results.
So when you get to inaction and reaction,
You're not going to get what you want out of the situation.
It's not going to be. What you intended in the first place. You're not going to show up the way that you wanted to. So really understanding these unhelpful questions. First of all understanding that it's totally normal and it's okay to have them. It's just showing you what your work that you get to do.
Figuring out what mind drama comes up around these unhealthy questions. Unhelpful questions.
And is there a belief system and opinion, maybe a thought or some stories around these unhelpful questions?
And then what do you do? When you're thinking these questions.
Lastly. Are you in acting? Or are you reacting to these unhelpful questions?
I love to get into this stuff. You guys absolutely love it. In the show notes, I'm going to be offering you a code. And it is a code to my business course. Now if you are a business owner or an entrepreneur or ahead of a company. Click the link. And sign up to get into the course. You get a total. Total support. You get online support, you get group coaching. You get videos, you get documents that you can read and you have work that you get to do to apply everything that you're learning to yourself. Bonus.
It's a lifetime membership. So you don't have to rush through it. Okay. I love you all take care. Bye-bye.
