📍 📍 Hey friends. How are you all doing today? It's a bit crazy for me. I am a widow with four kids and three of my four kids. Our homesick today.
It's a lot. I'm not going to lie, not even going to try and pretend it it's a thing. It's a juggle. So last week we talked about beliefs. This week, we're going to be talking about opinions. And what I'm doing is each and every week, I am kind of building upon each other as this podcast and YouTube. Are launched. And. I have a business program that I wrote called mind ascent.
And in that program is a neurodivergent business leaders course. Okay. I also have a neuro tribe membership. And then I also have a parent guide. That is launching. It's going to be great, but I talk about the bots. And all of them. Because the bots are important. Now what the bots are, is beliefs, opinions, thoughts, and stories.
And again, last week we talked about beliefs. We're talking about opinions next week. We'll talk about. Thoughts and then stories. And so you guys have a very clear idea of what the bots are. I'm not going to lie. I made it up.
Trying to be creative and get something that you can think about and memorize and make it easy for you. So today we're going to talk about opinions and because I like to make things fun. Opinions. When you look at the word, kind of looks like onions. And opinions very much are kind of like an onion and has layers to it.
And you had to kind of peel the layers to get to the root of it or get to the bottom of it. Right. So with opinions. They often will be spoken as a fact, people will say an opinion. And their opinions sounds solid. Like it just is. It's a fact. Okay. So.
But if you really get to kind of pick at the different layers in the center is a judgment of some kind. So what an opinion sounds like is, well, she should have. Well, he should have. Notice the word well, And should, should have. Those are all major flags, that there is an opinion going on. Another one that is really blatant is, well, he's supposed to. She's supposed to, right?
So this is this opinion, this judgment that someone is supposed to do not do think act in this way. Right? Another one that you can see is an opinion is I can't believe. Or, oh, my word, you guys, I will have sessions with clients and these sessions, we'll be talking about wanting to have more of a community, wanting to have friends, wanting to be able to approach people.
And before. It's even happens. There will be opinions thrown out about people in general. Well, I don't want friends to be fake. I don't want to have superficial people. I don't want to have the type of friends that they talk to you for. Maybe the first few times, and then they've just absolutely ghost you. And how you say this because when you're approaching someone. Do you really want to be approaching someone with an opinion with a judgment before you've even spoken to them? Do you want to be approaching someone with the thought, I don't want this person to be fake. Or I don't like talking to fake people. Because then your brain has a direction to go. Right.
Rather than being open to. Asking the person about themselves getting to know them. It's, it's very geared towards. They're fake. They're superficial. They're supposed to. They should do this right. Another one. Is grouping people together. Whether it's grouping all males together or grouping all females together or grouping. You know, somebody in a group together or grouping ethnicities together.
This is interesting. Grouping neurodivergent individuals together or neuro-diverse groups together and grouping neurotypicals together.
If you're grouping whole.
Bodies of people together.
There could be a, some opinions that are thrown out. And what I want to ask you, challenge you. Is when you throw an opinion out. How does it make you feel?
And do you want to feel that way?
Like, do you want to feel skeptical?
Which if you peel the layer of skeptical back. Normally. It's because there's some judgment. Right. Again, Just like an onion. I know I'm being so witty. Onion opinion.
Anyway. When you peel the layers back. In the middle is judgment. And everybody has some. Aspect of judgment in them. But I challenge you. If your opinions are holding you back in life, or you're not able to really. Feel. Connected to someone. I wonder how many opinions you have of them. I wonder how many judgments you have of them? Or have a partner or a sister or a brother or people you've never talked to before, but you work with them.
Right. Or maybe they are people that are at the gym and you 100%. Our thinking. All kinds of opinions about them and judging them. Right. So again,
We have opinions about people. And those opinions create the way that we feel. With regards to. Whoever it is. And when we have these feelings, these judgments about people.
What are our actions?
Are we approaching people with kindness. Are we approaching people with openness. Are we trying to see their point of view on things?
Are we. Open at all to see if our opinions are judgements.
Are actually.
Not sustainable.
I think that it's fascinating. Because when we open up and we let go of some of our opinions and let go of some of our judgments. We can actually form some pretty amazing connections. You might make a new friend.
You might let go of some resentment or bitterness that you have towards your partner or your sister or your aunt.
Because really an opinion. It's not harming the other person necessarily. It's more harming you and the way you feel and the way you conduct yourself. So I want to ask you.
How do you want to show up?
Do you want to show up with opinions and judgments?
Just curious. Not my place to say yes or no. It's yours.
And I'm just curious.
I love you all. Have a good day. Take care.
Bye-bye.
